For those of you who have been following Erika’s saga on Facebook, let me get you up to speed.

1. Erika was very ill.

2. Erika used EFT (tapping) to get well.

3. Erika developed her own version of tapping. Called it HBR (holistic belief reprogramming) (more info @ www.spiritualseduction.com)

4. She started coaching with this method, primarily in order for men to be able to improve their results with/pick up women better.

5. In the process of doing this, she had lots of *ahem* experiences.

6. She said she was going to wait for the man who would marry her without sleeping with her first. Claimed she was unseduceable.

7. She gave up on this. Said she didn’t need men at all.

8. Latest: she got seduced and slept with a guy within one hour who picked her up in a bar somewhere in Las Vegas. Update from Erika (see below): she got contacted by a man, went up to his hotel room, but did NOT sleep with him.

She explains what happened on these posts.

Let me point out some things that Vegas Guy did that will help you relax when dealing with women. It’s not rocket surgery.

The funny thing to start: you can know exactly how men learn to attract and pick up women and still fall for the techniques (which, once they are trained, are no longer techniques, but part of your being, like walking or toilet training).

I think we should really all be trained in these techniques fundamentally at puberty. Women get some training in being beautiful. Men don’t get much in interacting with women. And women: would you rather be picked up by a man who knows what he is doing, or a man who is just kind of fumbling his way through ‘as he is’ (natural apeman self?).  Who is with me here? But I digress….

Interesting to note is that 1) she (a Magna Cum Laude graduate of Harvard Law School) cannot even remember what he said at each stage. What do we learn from this?

• With women, energy is more important than the exact words you use. So, if you are ‘congruent’ and confident, most stuff you say doesn’t matter. Women are feeling the energy of the interaction.
• She was more in her feelings than in her head during the discussion. (She can tell you exactly how she felt in the body at each point).

2) The guy didn’t manipulate. He didn’t say anything to isolate her (speak with her alone) besides ask, “Would you rather spend some time getting to know me or would you rather hang around with your friends for awhile longer?” So, he came in, confident, said some stuff, and then asked her if she wanted to be alone. Simple. Direct. Easy.

Anyway, the rest of the commentary by Erika herself in the articles is correct and valuable. Summarized:

1. Make eye contact
2. Openly show interest
3. Get information (without breaking mood) quickly. Knowledge is power.
4. Ask a woman to make choices: in other words, to say NO at various parts of the process. From ‘wanna dance’ to ‘will you marry me’ be direct and concrete. Risk rejection!

Ok, so if you are a guy and want help dealing with women, at whatever level, drop me a mail @ ryan@gettherightgirl.com.

I do things a little bit differently. I am not into the typical ‘seduction stuff’. If  you are looking for that, go to doubleyourdating.com or www.pickup101.com–Lance and Eben are great guys with lots of wonderful info. If you are looking to learn how to open (talk to girls) easily, the best thing I have found is Carlos Xuma’s “Approach Women Now” system. But I don’t do their stuff (though products are tempting…).

Instead, I work with individually with men to find out where they are exactly on the path and to help them move toward it. So, it’s personalized coaching. Usually via skype. Hand-holding. Step-by-step. No problem is too large, no question too stupid. We deal with finding your masculinity, expressing it, overcoming fear of women, moving towards them, getting into contact, going deeper, and holding on to them once you have them. If this sounds interesting to you, contact me at ryan@gettherightgirl.com

Typical results: worked with a 27-year-old who had never had a girlfriend for one evening. 1.5 months later, he had his first girlfriend. Started working with a shy computer programmer virgin. After just a few appointments, he was able to actually ask women out.

Ancient cultures had rituals and teachings to help men and women develop confidence and ability in relating to each other. That has been lost. I am into bringing this back.

Thanks for being so open, Erika. It allows for excellent analysis.